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Country Home Lifestyle | Taking The Wabi Sabi Approach

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We're at the end of the first month of a brand new year and the typical search for the NEW ME starts to wind down a little now and we can begin to lose any sort of motivation and momentum we had a month ago. I can hardly believe that this time 1 month ago we were all excited about starting a new year, new page, new chapter. It's crazy. 
Personally, I've found January hard and I've not been able to really get into the excitement that everyone else has appeared to have. It can be really disheartening when you scroll through your social media feed and see how everyone else "appears" to have it all together can't it? I've felt the complete opposite and decided to take time out from social media for a while. I don't know how long it will last but I know that I need to re-discover where my happiness lies. 
Initially, I'd told myself to take January out and even just plod along in the background until March/April time but I resisted and I actually regret it now. Sometimes we need to listen to ourselves because most times we do have our own best interests at heart. But fear can get in the way, and it's not always the BIG fears, it can be the little silly ones such as; 
  • if I take time out then people will forget about me
  • if I take time out I'll get behind (whatever that means to us)
  • I need to keep going otherwise I'll never get anywhere
  • No one else is taking time out
  • This time of year needs to be fast paced and super productive
Really silly in the grand scheme of things. Mr R smiles softly and gently shakes his head when he hears me say things like this, and softly says "This is why I'm not on social media, it's not always good for your mental health and wellbeing". He's right. So it's about finding a balance.

I have long been fascinated with happiness + positivity, happily embracing them into my own life and trying to spread a little joy wherever I go. A friend of mine asked me over Christmas just what does it take to find that happiness and positive perspective – as I’m known as Little Miss Sunshine- in our circle/clique (not sure if it’s a sarcastic thing or not 😉 ) and when I told her the ways in which I found it in the past, and how I’ve been struggling myself lately, she said I should share them on my blog and share my happiness and positive energy with more men and women. Her theory was that by my helping you become happier, I would become happier still!
So here I am, and here you are – brought together synchronistically via our very own personal pursuit of happiness. Don’t you just LOVE the way that fate works?!
I’m just a happy girl next door kinda girl. I’m your normal, typical English Girl with BIG dreams,  trying to be happier + find more happiness + positivity in a world that can be so fear filled, sad, + cruel, not to mention stressful + pressured based + competitive.
So, my intention is that through a series of lifestyle posts here I will share my tips, tools and tricks to happiness + positivity and everything along the way that is useful in life, and in return, you’ll become happier more positive readers and people in life. 
The idea is to have a positive knock-on effect. I’ll also share with you my up and down journey – because life is up and down – but it is all a matter of perspective and it’s what we do with what we have that determines how successful our pursuit of happiness is. So let's get onto the approach I'm going to try and take.
What the heck is Wabi Sabi?
Wabi Sabi is a Japanese philosophy that encourages us to accept life for what is, perfectly imperfect, unique to each of us individually, and a philosophical permission slip to be yourself, DO your best whilst not having to BE the best whilst working towards a life that is not filled with unattainable goals of perfection. 
It’s a sort of ‘let you off the hook’ to be more self accepting and less judgmental + competitive. For me it means being ‘good enough’ in my life rather than striving to be the expert + top dog in everything I do. It’s a way of quitting with the people pleasing + unrealistic expectations we have allowed to become controlled by. 
Ways I'm going to be more Wabi Sabi; 
  • Practice acceptance in my crochet crafts - this will probably be a tough one for me as I really am a perfectionist at heart. I have a hard time of accepting stitches going wrong after I've devoted huge chunks of time and yards of yarn into them. I'm not a fan of 'frogging' my projects because in the moment it seems like admitting defeat. But having them discarded and hanging around only reminds me of my 'mistakes and failures'. This is a thought pattern I need to work on and I will update you on how I do this
  • Focus on a maximum of 5 key projects across my life and know that I am good enough - We hear that saying that sometimes 'Less is More' and I really need to embrace this. I tend to focus on doing EVERYTHING and getting nothing done. I think I need to remind myself of what my Dad used to tell me; "Do one thing at a time and do it properly". It always worked for him and it makes sense in this fast paced adult life we live. I've been trying to be; Teacher, Crocheter, Blogger, Creative, Business Woman, and Mentor. I can't wear all those hats at the same time. It's silly to try. 
  • Practice what makes me happy - I can slip into the tendency to be a people pleaser, I hate to let anyone down. But Mr R shows me how doing that is only letting myself down and that hurts more in the long run. I've lost myself a little and taking the social media break is my chance to re-focus and re-capture who I am and what I love to do. 
  • See the beauty in imperfection - I see a lot of people not being perfect and they are fine with it, in fact they are more than fine, they embrace it. I'm terribly british in the sense that I aim for perfection and anything else is not good enough. When I say this I say it not in what others do, but in what I do. I need to embrace the imperfection of everything and see it as the beautiful thing it is. Life. 
I'm very early into my Wabi Sabi approach so I will update as I go along and share what's working for me and what's not. The important thing is I'm trying, and I love to find new ways to be happy and positive. 

Leave a comment below with your thoughts on the Wabi Sabi approach to life, or if you have any tips on how I can follow through with the ways I'm approaching my life right now I'd appreciate them. 

Speak soon lovely, 


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